One of the things I hear most often from couples who are considering eloping is: “We want to elope, but we don’t want to skip the reception.”

All I want to say to that is that you don’t have to skip the celebration. Not even a little! In fact, some of my absolute favorite moments from any elopement happen after the ceremony. 

For years, I photographed traditional weddings, and while I witnessed so much joy, I also saw the stress, waste, and expense that often came with large receptions. Couples spent months planning a celebration they barely had time to experience. They rushed through dinner, greeting hundreds of guests, worried about timelines, and ended the night wondering where the day went.

Even back then, I found myself encouraging couples to think differently. I was passionate about creating more sustainable, plastic-free weddings and helping couples simplify wherever they could. Looking back, I realize it wasn’t just about reducing waste. It was about creating space for what mattered most.

I’ve always been drawn to a less-is-more way of living. I love all things minimal and meaningful, and I value experiences over things so much more. That’s one of the biggest reasons elopements felt like such a natural evolution for me.

To me, an elopement reception isn’t about recreating a traditional wedding reception on a smaller scale. It’s about celebrating your marriage in a way that reflects your values, your people, and the way you genuinely love spending time together.

One of the things I love most about smaller celebrations is that you actually get to enjoy them. You’re not spending dinner making the rounds to a hundred guests or apologizing for not having made it to someone’s table yet. You get to sit down, eat an incredible meal, tell stories, and laugh. You get to be fully present with the people you intentionally chose to celebrate with.

Whether that’s just the two of you or a small group of your closest loved ones, your reception can be as casual or as elegant as you want it to be. You can order pizza, hire a private chef, pop champagne, set a gorgeous table overflowing with flowers and candlelight, or grill burgers overlooking the ocean. There isn’t one right way. Only YOUR way.

It reminds me so much of Priya Parker’s The Art of Gathering. She writes that the most memorable gatherings aren’t necessarily the biggest, but the ones created with intention. Every person has a reason for being there. Every detail supports the experience. That’s exactly how I think about elopement receptions. They’re not about following tradition. They’re about creating a gathering that feels deeply personal and true to who you are.

What an Elopement Reception Can Actually Look Like

The short answer: anything. The longer answer is below, but the thread running through it all is the same — your reception should feel like an extension of your day, not a separate event you have to pivot into. It should feel like you.

The Private Chef Dinner at an Airbnb

If your love language is sharing a great meal together, hiring a private chef is one of my favorite ways to celebrate.

One of my Catskills couples, Jessie and Michelle, gathered around a beautifully set table while a private chef prepared dinner just steps away. Another couple along the coast of Maine celebrated the same way. Instead of feeling like a reception, it felt like inviting your favorite people over for the best dinner party of your life.

This is perfect for couples who love incredible food, slow evenings, and meaningful conversation.

Pizza Party Reception

Sometimes simple is exactly right. Macy and Matt celebrated their Acadia elopement with pizza, salad, and local beer from Sweet Peas Café Maine after exploring the coast together all day. There was no pressure, formalities, or timeline. Just really good food after an incredible adventure. Because, honestly… pizza tastes even better after you’ve spent the day hiking together.

Candlelit Dinner Reception

There is something incredibly beautiful about one thoughtfully designed table. Fresh flowers, candles, a meal that took thought to source and prepare, the people you love most in the world. 

Krista and Brian, and later Amanda and Ben, celebrated at Sassafras Cafe with intimate candlelit dinners that felt warm, romantic, and completely unhurried. Both couples even shared their first dance, surrounded by candlelight rather than in a crowded ballroom.

At Foggy Pearl, charcuterie boards, florals, and candlelight transformed a dining room into one of the coziest celebrations imaginable. You don’t need a huge venue to create something beautiful and intimate.

Family-Style Dinner by the Water

One long table. Fresh seafood. Champagne. The sound of the ocean is so close that you can hear it while you eat. Some of my favorite post-ceremony dinners have happened at waterfront cottages, with everyone gathered around one table, stories being traded long after dessert. There’s something about a single long table that creates a different kind of togetherness than a ballroom ever could. Nobody is at “table twelve.” Everyone is just there, together.

Backyard Barbecue Reception

Lauren’s Acadia celebration is one I keep coming back to. Picnic tables, the grill going, ocean views in every direction, kids running around on the grass, and family laughing together. Elegant doesn’t always mean formal, and sometimes the most beautiful reception is the one where everyone’s most comfortable. 

Beach Picnic & Campfire Reception

Cheyenne and Keith ended their Maine elopement with lobster rolls on the beach before everyone gathered around a fire to make s’mores under an actual sky full of stars. They didn’t need a dance floor, because the fire became the gathering place. The conversations that night went on longer than any playlist ever would have kept them going, which tells you everything you need to know about whether it worked.

The Breakfast Picnic or Sunset Charcuterie

Not every reception has to happen over dinner. Emily and Connor celebrated their sunrise Grand Teton elopement with a breakfast picnic overlooking the mountains. Micaela enjoyed a beach picnic in Acadia after her ceremony. Ashleigh and Donnie ended their Grand Teton adventure with charcuterie and drinks as they watched the Tetons glow at sunset.

Sometimes all you need is your favorite food, a blanket, and an incredible view.

When Your Elopement Reception Becomes Part of the Adventure

One of my Wyoming couples rode horseback through the Tetons to a private dinner tent where they learned to rope a steer, played cornhole, petted the resident beer burro, and watched free-range horses wander through camp while the sun disappeared behind the mountains.

Your reception doesn’t have to happen around a dinner table. It can become part of the experience and be as memorable as the ceremony itself.

How to Plan Your Elopement Reception

The practical side of planning an elopement reception is genuinely simpler than a traditional one, which is the whole point. Here’s how I’d think about it:

Start with how you want to feel, not what you want it to look like

Do you want to feel cozy? Adventurous? Elegant? Relaxed? The feeling comes first. The details like the venue, the food, the people, and the timing all follow from that.

Decide who you’d like to invite

An elopement reception can be just the two of you lingering over a meal somewhere beautiful. It can be your four closest people or a family gathering of twenty. The size doesn’t really matter, but your intention does. Every person at your table should be someone you genuinely want there, not someone you felt obligated to include.

Let the location set the tone

If you’re eloping somewhere specific, let that place tell you what the reception should be. Coastal Maine suggests seafood and fire. The Tetons suggest something a little wild and memorable. A New England forest in October suggests candlelight and something slow. The location you chose for your ceremony already has a personality, so let your celebration lean into it.

Build in time for it

Your reception needs time in the day, not the last forty-five minutes before everyone has to drive home. Whether it’s a multi-day elopement weekend where the celebration unfolds across evenings, or a single long day with space built in after the ceremony, give it room to breathe. The best moments happen when nobody is checking the clock.

Your Elopement Reception Should Feel Like You

If you want fresh flowers, candlelight, and an elegant dinner, do that. If you want pizza in your hiking boots, do that. If you want oysters by the ocean, a backyard barbecue, a private chef, s’mores by a fire… do that.

Years from now, you probably won’t remember how many centerpieces you had. You’ll remember who was sitting around the table with you. The story someone told that made everyone cry-laugh. The feeling of being completely present.

To me, that’s what an elopement reception should be. Not just another event on the timeline, but one of the most meaningful parts of your wedding day.

If you’re in the early stages of planning and want help thinking through what your celebration could look like, from ceremony to reception and everything in between, reach out. I’d love to help you design something that actually feels like you.

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